Children look at me funny since I've lost my hair; even when I'm wearing a hat or a scarf. They're curious, intimidated, wary, frightened...They hesitate to come near me. They stare. At restaurants, in church...
Children have never been afraid of me before; in fact, many were quite captivated with me. But not now. My own children hated to see my bald head initially. "Put your hat back on, Mom," they insisted.
For all these reasons, I was delighted to happen across this new book yesterday. In yesterday's PR web release, one reviewer is quoted as saying,
“Nowhere Hair offers an age-appropriate and honest explanation to children while speaking to the adult in a way that is empowering. Women
who know they will lose their hair are reminded they are still beautiful and vibrant, even when bald."
I was able to talk to my own kids about losing my hair, try to prepare them for it beforehand, and help them deal with it afterward. Only one other child has asked me why every time she sees me now, I am wearing a scarf. She and her sister listened, asked questions, and then dared to look at my bald head. Her younger sister wasn't sure if she wanted to see it or not; but in the end, they both looked at it and accepted it. Although, they expressed that they prefer I keep my hat on. I can't have that conversation with every child that crosses my path. I wonder how many kids ask their parents, "Did you see that lady wearing the hat in the Yellowstone? Did you notice that she didn't have any hair when she took her hat off to take that picture? What happened to her hair?" This book might help with such discussions.
Please check it out and pass it along! Put in requests to your libraries so that they will order it and more families can utilize it. And read it to your kids; even if you don't have cancer yourself. For them...for me.