My Journey With Cancer: Part 3, Meeting the Oncologist

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I'm horrible about keeping track of my cell phone and keeping it charged.  I didn't have one for the longest time, and finally broke down and got one a year ago.  People said that I would soon wonder how I'd lived without it, but that hasn't happened.  I just don't like cell phones.   Just as we were pulling out of the driveway to go to the hospital for biopsies, I realized I had forgotten it inside; but since we were running late, I decided to just leave without it.

After speaking with the radiologist and pathologist, we went to my mom's house to pick up the kids.   We lingered there for a while, sharing the news we had received.  By the time we finally got home, I had two messages on my home answering machine and one on my cell phone from the pulmonologist.  Not wanting to waste any time, he wanted to get me in to see an oncologist immediately.  His favorite oncologist would be in the office that afternoon, and had agreed to squeeze me in to the schedule.  If I had to wait until the next day, I could see another oncologist which he said was okay, but he really wanted to get me in with the first oncologist.  He had set up an appointment for 12:30pm, and he really needed me to call him!  It was 12:10pm, and the hospital is 20-25 minutes away.  After we picked up the kids, my mom had left her house for the afternoon to go to her old house in the city, 20 minutes the opposite direction, so I was going to have to find someone else to watch the 4 kids I'd just picked up from her house.  If I'd had my cell phone on me, we wouldn't have had to drive home from her house (5 minutes from the hospital), and she could have just taken the kids with her to the old house.  Sigh! 

We managed to work everything out.  The oncologist told us that we just needed to be there by 1pm.  I felt horrible doing it at the last minute, but I called one of my best friends, whose house is on the way to the hospital and who had just had a baby a few weeks before.  She agreed to watch my 4 kids (in addition to her 5).  Don't you just love friends like that?!? 

We got to the oncologist, and it turned out that we knew more than he did.  He had seen the CT Scans, but he didn't even know about the biopsies.  So we filled him in on everything that the radiologist and pathologist had said, and he told us some general things about Lymphoma and its treatment.  The appointment was somewhat informative, but it was all very speculative.  He was able to schedule a Bone Marrow Scan and Pet Scan, which were important, and it was good to get in to see him when we did so that we could get him as our doctor.  He's a Christian and works part-time so that he can spend time with his kids.  I've found out that quite a few people I know had him as their oncologist, or have family members who were treated by him.  Everyone says he's excellent.  And he is my pulmonologist and family doctor's favorite.

After the appointment, we went back to Rebekah's house to pick up the kids.  Her mom was there.  Apparently, she'd had some chest pain earlier in the day and had been to the doctor for tests.  They wanted her to come back in 4 hours for more tests; so, she was hanging out at Rebekah's until then.  As it turned out, she'd had a heart attack.  While we were at the appointment, Rebekah had made us a lasagna dinner, in addition to having a houseful of 9 kids, including a newborn!!  I was so blessed, and even more so when I found out a few weeks later, that it had been her birthday!!  Some birthday, her best friend finds out she has cancer, and her mom has a heart attack !   But here she is, making me lasagna on her birthday!  I didn't even know enough to say, "Happy Birthday!" let alone give her a card or a present.  I still owe her a cake!

Grace and Peace,
Angel